Adoption of the Month -October 2015

I have three grown children. My daughter lives in Manhattan Beach, CA, with her husband and my 11 year-old granddaughter. My middle child, a son, lives here in Spokane with his family. They have two sons, age 17 and 14. My youngest son, Ethan's dad, lives in Auburn, WA.

I adopted my youngest son who is Ethan’s biological father at birth.   Unfortunately he started using alcohol and other drugs early in life. His girlfriend at the time, Ethan's mom, was also addicted to drugs. Ethan was placed with me by CPS when he was 6 months old. His dad did a six month in-patient rehab at the Salvation Army in Seattle when Ethan was two-and-a-half years old. After he was released from rehab Ethan was returned to his father but unfortunately he went back to using drugs and he was placed back in my care. 

Although DCFS and the court system continued to work with the birth parents in an effort to return Ethan back home that process was unsuccessful and he remained in my care. 

Fortunately, Ethan's mother requested the court to grant me third-party custody of Ethan. She told me that she wanted her son to get an education and be successful in life. I told her that as long as she was clean and sober, I would allow her to visit Ethan and I have kept my promise. I believe that children should know their parents if at all possible. Fortunately, Ethan's mother gave up her parental rights so I could adopt Ethan and keep him safe. Ethan's dad consented to an open adoption and he was granted 4 visits a year. So far, he has not complied with the visits, and sadly, I've been told that he's using again.

The Adoption journey will be full of challenges so be of good faith and courage. The day will come when you will see the process end and another one begin. You will raise a successful child who might not have had the opportunity otherwise. Children can be a challenge in many ways but at the end of the day they are the reward and well worth the wait. 

Working with Mark Iverson and his office was great.  Mark was a gentleman every step of the way. He was careful but encouraging. He knows his business and does it well. I trusted him from the beginning and recommend him without hesitation. His office staff is friendly and very competent, helpful and cheerful. 

It's very difficult to visualize my life without Ethan. I loved him from the time I first visited him at the hospital. He was 2 weeks old and needed a hernia operation. He smiled and was surrounded by such joyous light that it was impossible not to love him. Ethan will have a great life.  He is resilient and highly intelligent and a very happy boy. I’m very grateful for the opportunity to be in his life and there is nothing I wouldn’t do for him. Some said I was too old to adopt but I know that I will have help from God and many kind people every step of the way. Thank you Mark! I will always be thankful to you and your staff.